Laundry List Item 28: The most important things each person must do for themself

It is so important to ask for help when we need it. The ability to clearly articulate what we need takes awareness to know what it actually is, and courage to ask for it.

But the help of others can only take us to a point. There is a moment when, if we want all that life has and to encounter important truths within ourselves, only we can do the work that needs to be done.

I think understanding this and then finding the bravery to take full responsibility for myself was the moment I transitioned from being an adolescent to being an adult (though I was 37 at the time). For me it took an almighty shove to stop looking around for others to do the dirty work for me, and to stop blaming them for holding me back. 

It was then I realised that I was the only person that held me back. And I was the only person that was going to make sure I got what I needed.

And it was then that I started to do the things I knew rang true for me, even if they rang alarm bells for everybody else.